Not to put too fine of a point on it, 2012 largely sucked for us.
It didn’t suck as bad for us as it may have for others. We ended it (mostly) healthy, employed & together, which not everyone can say.
Those are blessings I am in no way belittling.
But comparing your sadness and your joy with others’ is unfair to all involved. None of us are living one another’s lives. We are living our own and that is the yardstick we need to use to know what does & does not need changed in our lives & attitudes
I’ve kept a lot of the suck off the blog because it’s not all mine alone & other people have a say in what gets shared here. Though Havoc & Mayhem often make a point of telling me to put things here or on Facebook, they also ask I keep things off. DH as well. And there is only so much fictionalizing I can do.
So 2012 sucked for us in comparison to other times for us and it’s made a couple cynical people just that much more cynical. And added to the overall stress.
Were there good things? Sure! You’ve gotten to read just about all of them. And I have certainly managed to find the humor in many of the sucky things, which you have also gotten to read.
But eventually all the little things pile up and push me down & I need to do something to get away from the feeling of suck.
When it happened last spring I decided to spend the boys’ summer vacation counting my blessings. I have an Oh Life subscription and every evening when the prompt arrived I detailed the day and finished with something I am grateful for. I managed this 90% of the time.
But the thing about me and daily gratitude journals is I end up feeling bad about it. I know you don’t have to have some big meaningful thing to be grateful for every day, small things are fine, but I end up feeling inadequate because I am grateful for finding a working pen and not …I don’t know, something big & meaningful. Like it just highlights how shallow & ungrateful I am. Or how narrow focused I am. Or how unobservant. I don’t think gratitude journals are supposed to make you feel like a terrible person but mine usually make me feel that way.
It did help with the overwhelming feeling of suck overall though.
So this year I thought I’d try something a little different.
And drag the rest of the family along with me.
I’m sure if you have been on pinterest or Facebook you have see the blessing jar thing it seems everyone has been pinning lately.
I’d link to the original photo of it but I never actually repinned it myself or liked it, probably because I was thinking “Oh everyone is pinning it, if I need to refer to it it’s sure to be in my stream”
Of course, now that I need it, it isn’t. So please pardon the lack of attribution.
Anyway, I like this idea because it doesn’t involve me trying to come up with a blessing a day, when I can only really manage 4-5 days out of 7 if I am lucky, or me feeling bad because most of those are along the same lines of finding a working pen. I also like it because possibly 2012 didn’t really suck as bad as I think it did. Maybe the sucky things just made more of an impression than the good stuff but the good stuff far outweighs them?
I used to keep a 5 year diary, where you record a few lines a day with all 5 years for that day on the same page, so you can see back to where you were before. Plus you had a record of events to refer back to, so you could say “Yes, 14 things really sucked, especially the way they happened in groups like they did, but overall, it was just 14 things and look at all this good stuff.”
I found a new 5 year diary so I am starting it. I’m out of practice though so I wanted a back up and I didn’t want this to just be my thoughts of what is good.
So we’re doing the jar. The whole family. If something good happens you write it down & put it in the jar.
I’ll probably have to remind people, including myself, to do this, but I think we can do this once we start the habit. We’ve got problems ahead of us, situations don’t end just because 2012 does, but there is bound to be a lot of good stuff as well. Hopefully an overflowing jar full of stuff.
Wish us luck! I hope 2013 brings you all an overflowing jar of joy as well.